What is the Difference Between Absolute and Relative Truth?

What is the Difference Between Absolute and Relative Truth?

(This is the fourth post in my “65 Questions Every Christian Parent Needs to Learn to Answer” series. Sign up to receive posts via email to make sure you can answer each one!)

I was driving with the kids recently when my son announced that he had seen a black, red and yellow bird on his side of the car. My daughter Kenna immediately corrected him.

“Nathan, you are NOT right! The bird was black and red. It did not have any yellow. You are wrong.”

Nathan screamed back at her, “No! I am right! The bird DID have yellow on his bottom.”

Tired mom syndrome kicked in here and I entered the fray with this disingenuous response: “Guys! It doesn’t matter. Sometimes people see different things. Everyone can be right at the same time.”

Fast forward to the following week. My other daughter, Alexa, came running into the kitchen screaming, “Mommy! Kenna hit me!”

Kenna walked in behind her with a casual shrug. “No I didn’t. Now stop talking about it. We can both be right. Sometimes people see different things.”

I couldn’t believe it. My lazy response from the week before had totally confused my daughter’s understanding of truth! I had given her the idea that no one is right or wrong about anything, and everyone can be right at the same time.

As obvious as it may seem that there are many things which are true or not true (Kenna hit Alexa or she did not), this very basic understanding of truth – fundamental to Christianity – is under attack today. Kenna’s not the only one getting confused.


The Big Mix-Up: Absolute and Relative Truth

Whatever bird my kids saw was either 1) black, red and yellow (as Nathan claimed), 2) only black and red (as Kenna claimed), or 3) something else altogether (if they were both wrong). But contrary to my lazy “everyone can be right” response, the bird simply can’t be all of those things at the same time.

The color of the bird is an example of an absolute truth. To say that something is absolutely true means that it is independently true for all people, even if they do not know it or recognize it to be true.

The opposite of absolute truth is relative truth. To say that something is relatively true means that it can be true for one person and not for another. If Kenna had said, “the bird is beautiful!” and Nathan had replied, “the bird is ugly!” they could have both told the truth, because beauty is a matter of opinion; it’s a relative truth.

The existence of absolute truth is a necessary foundation of Christianity.

God didn’t exactly mince words in the Bible that what he revealed was the one and only truth. Quite directly, in John 14:6, Jesus said, “I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father except through me.”

The secular world is increasingly teaching, however, that all truth is relative – a simple matter of each person’s perspective. That’s why understanding these truth terms, and making them crystal clear for our kids, is so critical: we can spend years giving reasons for why we believe Christianity is true, but if the response is someday a shrug because our kids come to believe all truth is relative (“Christianity can be true for you, but not for me”), it will all be for naught.


Get Your Kids Thinking: The Chorus of Relativists

Here are four common statements rooted in the secular mix-up of absolute and relative truth. Talk through each with your kids. The bird examples may help you drive the concepts home.

“All religions point to the same truth.”

Even a most basic survey of world religions shows they contradict each other on major claims. They simply can’t be entirely true at the same time, though each claims to be entirely true. It’s just like the bird that can’t be black, red and yellow AND only black and red at the same time.

That said, it’s important to understand that different religions can contain parts of the absolute truth. For example, Judaism and Islam both believe in one God, as does Christianity. But neither religion believes Jesus is God’s son, which is central to Christian belief (and which Christians claim to be absolute truth). If the bird was black, red and yellow, Nathan’s belief was true. Kenna’s belief that it was black and red contained part of the absolute truth, but in its entirety, her belief was not true because she got the yellow wrong.


“Christians are not tolerant of other beliefs.”

Tolerance is the most misused word today. By definition, tolerance simply means to bear with ideas other than your own. Most people who throw the word around, however, treat it as though it means to agree with or accept those other ideas. To agree with all ideas is the ultimate nod to relative truth. Christians, however, should treat all people with respect, but stand firm that we believe only Christianity is true. Believing in absolute truth is not intolerant. Nathan could treat Kenna with respect while firmly stating that he believed she did not know the truth.


“I like to live according to compassion, rather than a pre-determined set of beliefs.”

Many young adults today turn away from biblical Christianity in favor of living according to “good values” alone. This quote suggests that it’s OK to decide what we believe based on what we like, as if spiritual truth is simply a matter of preference (a relative truth). I might like blue birds the best, but that has no bearing on the true color of the bird my kids saw.


“Christianity just doesn’t make sense to me because (fill in any number of reasons).”

What makes sense varies from person to person. Christianity makes sense to me. Atheism makes sense to someone else. Appealing to common sense implicitly promotes the concept of relative truth. But our subjective perspectives have no bearing on reality. Christianity might be true or atheism might be true, but they can’t both be true just because they make sense to different people. It might not make sense to me that there is a black, red, and yellow bird in this area right now, but that doesn’t mean the bird wasn’t truly there.

Can you think of other common statements that get absolute and relative truth mixed up? I’d love to hear your thoughts!


  1. Oh, Natasha, this made me smile! Do you know how often I tend to take the lazy mom approach when my kids are arguing? Too often! Thanks for this eye-opening insight on truth. :)

    • lol I understand completely, Rosann! The arguing gets me totally crazy. I will do anything for it to stop. This time it came back to bite me. :) I’m glad you liked the post!

  2. David Crain says:

    That is why Nancy Pearcey’s book is called “Total Truth” and why Simon Wiesenthal (bless his heart) got it terribly and tragically wrong when he named his Holocaust museum, the “Museum of Tolerance”.

  3. Natasha, it is absolutely true for everyone that Nathan “believes the bird to be ugly”

    • The evaluation of the bird’s beauty is what is a relative truth. Two people can make opposite claims about the bird’s beauty and both claims can be true. That’s what makes it relative. But you’re right that when we DESCRIBE what each person believes, those descriptions are absolutely true.

  4. We know that the bible story even that of the flood is true , There is a whole earth full of evidence of the truth of the flood , Everything you see is evidence of the flood because the flood swept over it and receded from it , Things that show life on earth to be millions of years old are actually evidence of the flood and life has not existed for millions of years , Science could not possibly fail to recognise this fact for so long so we are no longer talking about any sort of truth , We have to get our heads around the fact that evolution science is now the great lie .

  5. Good blog! I came hear to jump-start my thinking about a scene I’m writing for a Christian novel. You make some great points in a way that is easy to understand. Thanks!

  6. A.O.S. Olaniji says:

    For some years, I’ve heard people bandy the word ‘relative’ around without making any effort to realise its full import and impact. Your piece just exposed its subtle danger through’ ‘semantic dramatization’. God bless you.

  7. Bill Brown says:

    Thanks for your well written insight into absolute and relative truth. It really helped my understanding of those terms.

  8. Dear Natasha,
    Thank you so much for simplifying the distinction between relative truth and absolute truth. I’m currently reading “I Don’t Have Enough Faith to Be an Atheist” and “Mere Christianity. Your example was perfect. I’m currently trying to find out the “Truth”
    False religions and parts of the Bible has caused me some doubts. I don’t know for sure if Jesus is God himself or just the son. What I am sure about is that Isaac Asimov, Stephen Hawking, Carl Sagan and the likes have been unsuccessful, with all their theories, proving that God does not exist. I must remove that doubt. I can only do that by researching and Holy Spirit. Please, I beg for prayers. Please. How can I possibly have a relationship with a God I, from time to time, doubt?
    Thank you

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